Thinking Out Loud

October 20, 2010

Wednesday Link List

  • Making the Same Mistake Twice? Department:  Nobody felt the original reached its true potential so there’s going to be a remake of the Left Behind movie.   Guess who’s doing it?  Cloud Ten Pictures, the exact same company that made the first one.   Huh?
  • Truth is Stranger than Fiction Department:  The American who pastor who threatened to burn the Qu’ran and then didn’t is getting a free car just for being a good boy.  “Okay, Terry; you’ve been a good boy and remembered not to play with matches; so here’s the present we promised you…”
  • Personal Inventory Department:  Trey Morgan on the various things people use to gauge their self-worth.  What’s your’s based on?
  • Indie Christian Artist Department:   If you like dance music with bass that thumps while at the same time enjoying strongly Bible-based lyrics, check out the song “Life” by artist Beckah Shae.   Or go here for the YouTube now closing in on 200,000 views.   (Is that someone blowing a shofar in the background?)  Here’s another one:  Here in this Moment is closing in on 300,000 views.
  • Iniquities, Transgressions and Sins, Oh My! Department:  Washington, DC pastor Mark Batterson introduces the Jewish understanding of the three dimensions of sin.
  • Ecclesiology For Fun and Profit Department:  David Paul Door says when you plant a church, you have to think less like a pastor and more like a missionary.
  • You Really Should Read This Department:  A Christianity Today interview with Joni Earekson Tada on suffering, chronic pain, and breast cancer.
  • “I’m a Full Gospel Preacher” Department:   Challies posted this link this week to Erik Raymond, the Irish Calvinist, answering the musical question: Why are some pastors so fat? Except he didn’t bother with the word “some.”
  • Gettin’ Ready to Party Department:  If tonight we’re gonna party like it’s 1611 to celebrate the 400th anniversary of the KJV, the author of Majestie: The King Behind the King James Bible figures we’d better know a little about James Stuart.  Here’s the video trailer for the book which officially released yesterday.
  • Why Can’t We All Just Sing Along? Department:  CNN gets church choirs across North America to join together on a verse and chorus of Andrae Crouch’s classic, “The Blood Will Never Lose Its Power;” and then attempts to blend them all as one.
  • Amish Fiction Overload Department:  If you can’t get enough of the Amish through the fiction section of your Christian bookstore, you can learn more about them in the popular blog Amish America.
  • For our cartoon today, we return to the most prolific of the Baptist Press artists, Joe McKeever:

January 12, 2009

His Needs, Her Needs

Filed under: Christianity, family, marriage — Tags: , , , , , — paulthinkingoutloud @ 9:54 pm

Trey Morgan succinctly blogged the contrast between “his” needs and “her” needs this week.   Check out his blog regularly at TreyMorgan.Net …

Willard Harley in his book “His Needs Her Needs” lists what he believes are the top 5 needs for Husbands and the top 5 needs for Wives. (You can find more on these lists here.)
his-needs-her-needsHusbands Top Needs…
1. Sexual Fulfillment
2. Recreational Companionship
3. Physical Attractiveness of Spouse
4. Domestic Support
5. Admiration
Wives Top Needs…
1. Affection
2. Communication
3. Honesty and Openness
4. Financial Support
5. Family Commitment
Lea and I have taught a “His Needs Her Needs” marriage class or read the book multiple times and have found that for the most part, these lists are right on. One thing we’ve noticed personally is that our needs change from time to time. One time while doing the Bible study (or reading the book) our needs will be ranked one way, and the following time they’ll be completely different. That tells me that there has GOT to be good communication in marriage to talk to our spouse about our needs. If I don’t tell my spouse my needs, she might never know them. And I need to ask my spouse regularly, “What are your needs and how am I doing meeting them?”

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