Thinking Out Loud

July 17, 2018

Longing for Connection

Filed under: Christianity — Tags: , , , , , — paulthinkingoutloud @ 8:44 am

Have you ever done this?

You’re a zillion miles from home and you’re walking through a mall or a downtown street and you’ve got your radar on to see if you see anyone you know.

You don’t know anyone.

It’s a given.

(Well, extremely unlikely.)

But you keep scanning anyway.

Just in case.

We’re human.

We’re social.

We long for connection to other people.

We’re wired that way.

Most of us.

December 22, 2017

Claiming Bragging Rights

Filed under: Christianity, media, personal — Tags: , , , — paulthinkingoutloud @ 7:11 am

Something in the human psyche longs for connection with the rich and famous…or perhaps simply for bragging rights on Facebook.

This year I passed on a couple of opportunities to meet two authors for whom I have great respect. Both had books made into movies and at the end of the press preview for each there was a meet and greet where you stand in line and get to shake the person’s hand and tell them how much their writing has meant to you.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s an honor to be invited to these things and if they were a little closer, or ended at an earlier hour before the drive home, I would probably rearrange my schedule.

But I would be going for all the wrong reasons.

Basically, while I would have a memory of meeting them, they would have absolutely no memory of meeting me. That’s the simple dynamics of these things. It would not be that I “had coffee with” or “sat on an airplane next to” them; rather, the contact would be superficial, fleeting. Usually the takeaway from these things consists of two possible responses: “She was taller than I expected;” or “He was shorter than I expected.”  (Bonus marks I suppose for those rare times you walk away saying, “He had a very firm handshake.”)

We do have these experiences in our life as a couple. One time, just about ten minutes before going on stage, my wife gave a popular Christian singer a much-needed cough candy. (“Local woman saves performance by international musician…Film at 11:00.”) Every once in awhile his name comes up along with the requisite candy mention…

Had I gone to the film screenings, the result would have been quite simple: Bragging rights. I would have earned the right to say that I’ve met the person in question, and then presumably others would say of me: “You know Paul has actually met him. In person.”

There would be no exchange of business cards and personal e-mail addresses and I would not have heard, “That’s sounds interesting. Let’s get in contact at the start of next week.”

The event would, I suppose serve the intended purpose of increasing my passion with respect to that author’s books and movies. But that passion would have already been there for me to have traveled to the preview.

That said, I really wish it had worked out for us to attend both events. I regret that we could not make the schedule work A year needs some high points. Perhaps it’s about legitimizing what I do and the vocation that occupies my daytime energies.

Maybe it would be about telling myself, ‘I actually met him. In person.’

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