Thinking Out Loud

June 5, 2017

Empathy: The Helper’s Most Powerful Asset

Filed under: books, Christianity, reviews — Tags: , , , , , — paulthinkingoutloud @ 9:17 am

Some of you will remember that years ago I posited the idea that the reader who focuses only on the latest books would do better to alternate between current releases and classics. When opportunity presents itself, I like to get my hands on books which have been proven bestsellers.

Book Review: The Wounded Healer by Henri Nouwen

I can’t tell you how many copies of this book I’ve handled but had never actually flipped the pages until this weekend. Realizing that it was only 100 pages made the prospect of reading this a relatively simple task and I actually competed it in a single sitting.

The book’s title is a bit of a spoiler, not to mention that the book is often mentioned in sermons and lectures. Still, the idea of the “wounded healer” really doesn’t really come into focus until the last of the four chapters.

A Wikipedia search reveals that Nouwen — pronounced NOW-in — “was a Dutch Catholic priest, professor, writer and theologian. His interests were rooted primarily in psychology, pastoral ministry, spirituality, social justice and community. Over the course of his life, Nouwen was heavily influenced by the work of Anton Boisen, Thomas Merton, Rembrandt, Vincent van Gogh and Jean Vanier. After nearly two decades of teaching at academic institutions including the University of Notre Dame, Yale Divinity School and Harvard Divinity School, Nouwen went on to work with mentally and physically handicapped people at the L’Arche Daybreak community in Richmond Hill, Ontario.”

Six years ago, we ran a collection of Nouwen quotations at Christianity 201.

At first I thought the book might be simply a collection of four disconnected essays. I was unsure where he was going with his first chapter, a description of ‘beat generation’ youth. (I created that term from the subsequent chapter where Nouwen quotes “an English beat group.” His actual term for the composite person in the case study is “Nuclear Man.”) Though the book was written in 1979, I thought one observation in that chapter was particularly applicable to us today, namely the idea that the young care more about what their peers think than what their parents might think. He sees such a person as having three major life options.

Once I got into the second chapter I began to see where the cohesiveness of the book was beginning to take hold. Again, though written nearly 40 years ago, it was interesting to note the parallels between the three characteristics of what he might term ‘next generation’ youth, and what is written today about Millennials.  

The third chapter was for me the most poignant. A young theology student visits a middle-aged man in hospital awaiting surgery the next day. His exchange with the man, although pleasant, doesn’t really offer much in the way of connection or hope. He returns to his chaplaincy supervisor and replays the visit word-for-word, and it as that point he — and we observers — are struck by the enormity of the failure in giving the man the desire to continue into tomorrow and beyond.  

The final chapter is in some represents the book’s title song; where the idea of the compassion and empathy needed is really driven home. It’s at this point I realized how this book has become a bestseller for so long. 

Some readers, especially Evangelicals, will wish the book was more Jesus-centric. There’s a line early in the book where a minister is told, “If, instead of reading your Bible, you had visited this young man just once and looked into his eyes, you would have known.” I can see how that, especially here out of context, could really grate on some people. However, Nouwen’s popularity today seems to be relatively the same between Catholic and non-Catholic readers. While book excerpts and quotations abound online, a good place to begin would be to check out The Henri Nouwen Society.


June 11, 2010

Currently Reading: A Refreshing Look at the Hymns/Choruses Debate

Maybe this will be the last book written on the subject.   It almost seems like old news.   The writer of Why Johnny Can’t Sing Hymns: How Pop Culture Rewrote The Hymnal, David Gordon admits in the introduction that the market has been flooded with books on this topic.

That said — and keep in mind this isn’t a full review — I do feel that Gordon brings something new to the table, and in fact, I think if worship leaders were to read this with an open mind — they would include at least one hymn in each worship set.

But they might not do it with the band, and it wouldn’t be an update as is the case when “When I Survey” becomes “Wonderful Cross.”   It might even involve taking the Midi keyboard and finding the most authentic pipe organ sample you can find.   In fact, it might even involve having some older geezer walk onstage to play the song.

Gordon calls himself a “media ecologist.”   I’m told he defines this in his previous work, Why Johnny Can’t Preach: The Media Have Shaped The Messengers (both are paperbacks from P & R Publishing.)  He’s concerned about the deluge of popular music already bombarding us from a variety of sources.  He then catches or collects observations on things you may have missed:

As Ken Myers has observed, ‘People often play air guitar while listening to rock, but almost no one plays air violin while listening to a violin concerto.’  (from a footnote on page 12)


Gordon feels that the problem in worship leading is not so much the actual songs we choose as the fact that choice necessitates that there are a host of songs we omit. He frames his purpose on page 36:

“…An extremely abbreviated list of the considerations that have caused me to be wary of using contemporary Christian music in worship services at all, to object to its common use, and to zealously oppose its exclusive use…”

It seems rather hard-line, but I think his arguments are quite forceful.   As an advocate of “blended worship,” and therefore already partially converted, I still find myself challenged.

Finding time for reading has been difficult lately.   Plus,  I don’t want to rush through this one.   So more to come…

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