Thinking Out Loud

June 28, 2015

This Blog’s All-Time #1 Post

This weekend we’ve focused on this blog’s top three all-time posts, of which #1 is The Eight Things Destroyed Our Marriage by Justin and Trisha Davis. On Friday and Saturday I re-posted the entire texts of the other two top traffic generators here, but today we’re not doing this because (a) it’s very long, and (b) I’ve always felt guilty about any traffic this might have diverted from the authors’ blog over the years, though it obviously is meeting a real need. Like Friday’s, this one was deemed as special from the very beginning and existed as a page rather than a post. You can read it by clicking here.

Since we already ‘borrowed’ so much from material from Justin and Trisha, I thought we might as well go one step further and share their story in this space instead. But again, we encourage you to read it directly at source, because there’s a video at the end of their story as shared with Cross Point Church (Pete Wilson) in Nashville.

Justin and Trisha DavisHey there. We are Justin and Trish… Here is a little bit about us. Our hope is that as you learn more about us and our story, you allow us to learn more about you as you become a part of the RefineUs community.

Our return to ministry is the result of a victorious battle for our marriage and family. After successfully planting our first church, Justin had an affair with a staff member, who was also Trisha’s best friend.

What followed was a 4-year journey of pain, grief and ultimately the restoration of our relationship by the grace of God. This experience left a watermark on our marriage of what it really means to experience grace, love and redemption firsthand—both individually and as a couple.

In 2009 we founded RefineUs Ministries using their story of failure, loss, and transformation to guide individuals, couples, churches, pastors, pastor’s wives and church planters towards a healthy marriage and family.

We currently wear a lot of hats. We are bloggers, authors, and teachers and we live in Nashville, TN with our three boys.

Justin is on staff part-time as a pastor of Cross Point Church, recently named the 6th fastest growing church in the country.* We both attended Lincoln Christian University in Lincoln, IL where we met and fell in love (with Justin adamantly asking Trisha out twice a week for 6 months before she said yes.)

Justin received his BA degree in Christian Education in Lincoln and Trisha later earned her degree from Indiana University.

With the rare free time that we can scrounge up, you will find us going on walks, eating at PF Changs, or having coffee together; and sometimes all three at once. We believe the resurrection of our marriage to be a great gift and we know it is a privilege to use RefineUs to help others towards that same healing.

Our first book, Beyond Ordinary: When a Good Marriage Isn’t Good Enough from Tyndale House Publishers, is available now. You can order from a number of places today. Click here for more info.

We are passionate about sharing all that God has done in our life, marriage and family. If you would like more information about booking us for your event, your church service or a conference, please check out our speaking page… [continues to video introduction]

In preparing this, I have just noticed that the links within the eight sections are broken, if anyone wants to send us updated ones we’ll edit that post. (I know part six exists still.)

Again, I am in awe at the traffic this generates and the needs in marital relationships that probably represents. To J. and T., thank you that we were able to steal borrow the eight individual blog posts that made up this article; I know it is blessing many people.

I want to encourage you to read the authors’ blog,

*Even as we’re publishing this, Justin is completing his time on staff at Cross Point and they are moving on to a new adventure in Indianapolis. Follow them on Twitter @JustinDavis33 and Trisha @TrishaDavis23

Here again is the link to the article as it appears at Thinking Out Loud.

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