Thinking Out Loud

July 28, 2013

Megachurch Pastor Practices Vulnerability

Filed under: Church, ministry — Tags: , , , — paulthinkingoutloud @ 11:11 am

Bruxy Cavey Bus

You can choose to go to a church of 10,000 – 20,000 people and never actually have a conversation with the person who teaches you each Sunday. In the modern megachurch, lead pastors don’t do weddings, don’t do funerals, and if you ask to meet for counseling, you are passed on to someone else on church staff.

Which is probably why I was so impressed when NavPress author — The End of Religion —  and teaching pastor of The Meeting House in Oakville (west Toronto) Bruxy Cavey, Tweeted this while walking through Canada’s largest city last Sunday night:

Hanging out on Queen St downtown Toronto. Any Meeting Housers in the area wanna grab a drink & a chat? Text or call me.

I don’t know what kind of response he got — he has 7,100 followers — but I do appreciate his willingness to connect with the people of his tribe totally spontaneously. And I admire the vulnerability in throwing the invitation open to anybody, even that guy who always wants to engage in a long and tedious conversation. (And sometimes, in other contexts, I think I may have actually been that guy.)

Learn more about one of Canada’s most cutting-edge churches at The Meeting House and Bruxy’s blog.


  1. I have a lot of time for Bruxy. When I visited the Meeting House, he stood in a side room at the end of the first service and made time for EVERYONE who wanted to talk to him, myself included. Then he went right back in to lead the next service. I’m not a big fan of megachurches, but he certainly has a very clearly articulated vision, and made me feel very welcome, even though I was just one more guy in a line waiting to talk to him.

    Comment by trevor — July 28, 2013 @ 9:49 pm

  2. I’ve been to Southeast Christian Church in Louisville a couple of times and both times Kyle Idleman and Dave Stone were outside after the service talking to people. I know from having gone to their (Southeast’s) leadership conference they both do the same thing in that setting. Kyle and I even had a discussion a few years ago about his H2O small group series we were using. 2 years ago while Kyle was giving his talk in the main session we were in the second row and Dave Stone just sat down with our group. Afterwards he talk to us all, found out where we from, and acted like we were long lost friends. A few days later we got a handwritten card at church from Dave thanking us for coming and letting us know he was praying for our church. Never expected that from a guy with a church of 20,000. His predecessor, Bob Russell, was the same way though. I have little doubt that is part of the reason they are as big, and healthy, as they are.

    Last year I went to Granger Community Church for the first time for the ReInnovate Conference and Mark Beeson was everywhere talking to everyone nearly all day. They did a great job of making their staff and speakers accessible to everyone. They didn’t whisk them out back side doors like I’ve seen happen at other places.

    Kudos to churches for making their leaders available, and for the leaders that are willing to do it!

    Comment by Jeff R. — July 29, 2013 @ 11:31 am

    • Stories like that are what we like to celebrate here! So good to know this, especially with the size of Southeast.

      Comment by paulthinkingoutloud — July 29, 2013 @ 11:38 am

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