Thinking Out Loud

February 14, 2012

More Than Valentine’s Day

Filed under: family — Tags: — paulthinkingoutloud @ 7:16 am

We were married on Valentine’s Day exactly 25 years ago.  I was only 18 and Mrs. W. was just 16.

Okay, the age part is a lie; let’s start again…

…Today, in addition to being Valentine’s Day is our 25th Anniversary.  We’re celebrating by going out to Harvey’s — a hamburger chain — for a burger and fries.  Actually, after a few years of inclement weather and long Valentine’s Day dinner lineups at restaurants, we time-shifted our anniversary to August 14th. 

But it’s still the day dedicated to St. Valentine and we’ve been celebrating those days for a quarter century. I think. I’m not sure if I actually bought a gift for that first one — we were somewhat busy — though I did give her a ring that day.

Where did the time go?

It disappeared by the year, the month, the day and the minute. But it didn’t just fly out the window; it’s rich with memories some good some not so good. It’s in the not so good memories that the depth of love and commitment is truly realized; lesser people would have packed up and left a long time ago. I guess we signed on for life.

We came together with everything in common and nothing in common. Great expectations but not always great expectancy. Different worldviews but a somewhat common purpose. With patience, prayer and perseverance, we’ve made it to that so-revered quarter century anniversary.

Regrets? Many, but not on the life-partner front. I definitely married up. I have so much respect for my wife and all she accomplished; as a wife and mother, as an artist, and as a Christian leader in our community.

And so, with much gratitude to God and my wife, I say, “Happy Anniversary to us!”

What does it take to be a long-term couple?  Check out this article.


  1. What a beautiful post…I hope you printed it and put it in an envelope for her…it so blows Hallmark out of the water!

    Comment by Cynthia — February 14, 2012 @ 9:23 am

  2. Thanks for the great loving article and for the mention at the bottom.

    Comment by Scott McCown — February 14, 2012 @ 7:38 pm

  3. A beautiful tribute to a loved wife – one such as seldom heard these days.

    Comment by meetingintheclouds — February 14, 2012 @ 11:35 pm

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