Okay, truth time. I grew up in a major city and was a commuter student during all four years of university. Only towards the end of my senior year did I realize what I was missing. Too little, too late.
So I wanted my son to have the complete experience and a late aunt was kind enough to remember Kid One in her will, paving the way for at least a year of residence.
A pre-admittance survey asked for personality preferences, and Kid One mentioned that he is fairly quiet and likes to retire for bed somewhat early, especially by college standards. The idea was he would be given a roommate with similar likes and dislikes.
Words like reticent and taciturn don’t begin to describe the situation. But then, Kid One noticed the guy was making connections with other people, but only engaging in the most essential communication when in the dorm room with my son. Like maybe less than 200 words so far this semester.
What’s with that?
What started out as a personality trait is now emerging as rejection. And that’s not a nice thing to do to anybody.
So to those of you who have been in the situation: How do you get a very withdrawn and possibly hostile roommate to open up? How do you break the ice? Is mid-November past the point of trying?
And of course the related question: As parents, how do you go from being ‘copied in’ on everything at the elementary and high school level to being on the sidelines once your kid enters university or college? My son’s a nice guy. I just want to call up his roommate and tell him that.